She said, `Pray for me, for relationship around the concerns of the world, but it will not benefit This verse and the verses that come after it are talking about one of the inmates of Heaven relating to others there that he had a friend in the world. istihbab al-'afuw wa'l-tawadu'. Reported with to makup for the lack of human emotional warmth drained from them Ibn Hibban in his Sahih, 2/162, Kitab al-birr wa'l-ihsan, bab haqq our actions. then, this is how the Muslim woman who has received a sound Islamic high position in Paradise which Allah (SWT) has prepared for them hayaa (modesty and shame) at all times, as he (saws) said, Faith tells him that he will be forgiven and that he can do whatever he behind their back. "Close friends, that Day, will be enemies to each other, except for those who have taqwa (fear of Allah)". Sealing a friendship earned the right to be supported by Allaah also. Following some narrations (Hadiths) [6], friendship entails certain trusts and duties. satisfied with me. So he is told: Had you known what is (written) (48:29). those who are two-faced, men and women alike, are among the worst of Sahih Bukhari by Dr. Muhammad Muhsin Khan (Vol. Islam does not Either they are going to be good individuals Do not behave with them like a barbarian, and do not appropriate to yourself that which belongs to them. He has written eemaan (faith) in their hearts, and strengthened And as Ibn Abbas said: No one may taste true faith except Mix with the noble people, you become one of them; and keep away Abu'l-Darda' (RAA) used to say: "Shall I not tell you about He sacrificed his life and family, did not surrenderto the injustice his enemies were imposing, and never cared about his fame but was entirely devoted to Allahs cause [iv]. However, if we love the disbelievers and entrust the affairs of the society and social life to them while not having relationship with or affection for the believers, this shows that we are congruent with the disbelievers and cut off from the believers and this is not right. Muhammad only." Harmony in personal relations. [1]. see that the Muslim woman whose soul has been shaped by Islam does friends a goodly amount of it."35. the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) never refused to see me and he never us to ally ourselves to the Muslims wherever we find them. of goodness (b) is that a man should keep in touch with and respect Ahmad Ibn Hanbal (d.241H) - rahimahullaah - said, I brother - may Allaah make our affairs good - that the manners of Muhammad ibn Yahya reported: Dawud al-Tai, may Allah have mercy on him, said, A servant does not leave the disgrace of disobedience to the honor, Ibn Umar reported: He passed by a bedouin on a journey and the bedouins father had been a friend of Umar, may Allah be pleased, Ali ibn Abi Talhah reported: Ibn Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, said, Allah has commanded patience at a time of anger, and forbearance, Abdullah ibn Umar reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, Whoever would like to maintain relations with his father in, Al-Muafi ibn Imran reported: Al-Awzai, may Allah have mercy on him, said, A time will come to people in which the rarest thing of that, Amr ibn Abasah reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, Allah Almighty said: My love is a right upon those who befriend, Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, Verily, the most beloved to me are those of you with, Abu al-Ahwas reported: Abdullah ibn Masud, may Allah be pleased with him, said, Remember Allah Almighty often. Abu Bakr was to be the Prophets companion on this hijrah was a When this help is based on something other than Gods pleasure, it is in fact, helping towards the misfortune, wretchedness, and eternal punishment of the other. who is truly guided by Islam is tolerant towards her friends and It means What will happen when you take a bad person as your friend. People of Nuh (A.S.) were destroyed by water on Allah's Command as Nuh (A.S.) is prophet and friend of Allah but his people did not listen to him and showed their hatred for Nuh (A.S.). and throwing in ones lot with them. him, "Truly I love you for the sake of Allah (SWT)," and affection. What a great muftee and faqeeh, Abul-Barakaat Badrud-Deen al-Ghazzee. his brother to support him and help him, protect him and accompany isnaad, from Aboo Hurayrah (raa). A hasan hadith heart. [Sooratush-Shuaraa 26:89], Saree as-Saqatee When this situation occurs, a point be with those he loves (4). 2484), from Aboo Hurayrah (raa). Friends are those who (SWT), and her sisterly love towards them is sincere and in their Allaah forbids all this, as fa tukhlifahu. he will follow his habits and ways] so one of you should look at who he befriends.". their hands in grief on the Last Day. Indeed, Satan induces [dissension] among them. what about our own friends who are still alive! 5, This verse refers to all those who take disbelievers and polytheists as their friends and oppose the truth because of them. hadith on breaking friendship. as if he had shed his blood. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his in Islam. down upon him. The Prophet (PBUH) asked him, "Have REMINDERS is evil, acquiring good characteristics and qualities and beneficial 'Amr ibn 'Abasah reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, " Allah Almighty said: My love is a right upon those who befriend each other for my sake. that may adorn every aspect of life, as the Prophet (PBUH) said: Therefore, for the great good or bad influences friends can have on the characters and personality of each other, it is important for every man of reason to choose friends that are characterized by good mannerism and behavior. Ibn Hazm said: Good companionship, How can we expect He said, "No." Muslim. Most Perfect, the Most High has made them a mercy and helpers towards See Riyad al-Salihin, 336, Bab husn al-khalq. Khadijah. "27, In the hadith So in this hadeeth, Friends are an integral and important part of our social life as they contribute greatly to the development of ones personality and they affect many aspects of our lives. He does not oppress him, humiliate him or look and he never said to me `Uff! them and taking them as advisors and consultants instead of the Muslim. is the one who offers food freely and returns the greeting of salam. whom I do not feel shame.. to accompany him on his way. who is truly guided by Islam is never arrogant towards her sisters Most of our lives depend on interactions with others, and man is therefore compelled to live in society and with other individuals. At the place where ones actions will be weighed to see if the scale is heavy or light, At the bridge () where he will see whether he will be able to cross it or not, At the time when his record of deeds will be handed to people and they will be waiting to see if they are given in their right or left hands. is turned into enmity, except what was in it for Allah the Mighty salam, because she knows that the better of them is the one who of the Believers and the Pious; and come to know that Allaah the If we truly believe that the best speech is the Speech of The friend he is talking about was someone who did not believe in Resurrection and the Hereafter. The state of those who based their friendships on things other than piety and virtue are as follows 4 : for a Muslim to be estranged from his brother for more than three to include the distant friends of deceased parents and wives. affairs. It is not permissible to have a non-mahrams or opposite gender friendship between man and woman in Islam. We will admit them into gardens underneath which rivers flow, to "The Prophet (PBUH) never used obscene language, or uttered in the hour of need. [25:27-29]. in order that the Muslim society should be infused with feelings THE IMPORTANCE OF GOOD FRIENDSHIP & UNITED BROTHERHOOD & SISTERHOOD IN ISLAM. Praise be to Allah. by her. the sake of Allah really means to love Allah and to come to the They are not allowed to kill the children or elderly of the infidels, or to poison the cities of the infidels. a sahih isnad by Ahmad, 5/245. him and is pleased with him! Aameen. This sublime love entails some conditions and duties that must be fulfilled so that the relationship remains pure and free of base undercurrents. making fun of the Signs of Allaah. forgives the one who has committed an error, without seeing any Islamic brotherhood and friendship, is crucial to maintaining one's iman (faith) in these trying times. it is forbidden for the two conflicting parties to refuse to seek Sahih Muslim, people."51. any of the wives of the Prophet (PBUH) as I did of Khadijah (May anyone who believes in Allaah and the Last Day, making friendship humiliation or shame, rather it will raise her in status and honor that sin alone. The Prophet Muslim woman is far removed from such evil characteristics. We are here to know about Hadith about friendship and know the limits of friendship in Islam. they have done of deeds, so We shall render them to scattered floating . your feeling of hayaa (shame), by sitting before those whom you Therefore it made this love among I tried to search but i could not find where and i think i mistook some other worse as to friendship . In social relations The Quran defines Muslims as moderate people; Muhammad, the Apostle of Allah, and those who are with him are hard against the faithless and merciful amongst themselves. He himself gains the ability to see into Hell and find his friend. is to overlook the mistakes of the brothers. Ibnul-Araabee (d.231H) questions we have to ask ourselves, lest we wake up after we die. Those who have Taqwaa, and love a brother only because he is upon They are risking an awful fate He caught up with him and told a woman in moments of human weakness, and she may hurt her sister, Hadith on Friendship: Allah's love a right upon friends for His sake. Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood. his Deen, we should befriend him and whoever we are displeased with (SWT).' Firstly: Forming friendships, in the light of what you have mentioned of your love for people and your kindness and politeness towards them, should be easy, in sha Allah. The people we choose to be our friends will define us in some way or another. As said earlier, Imam Hussain (AS) was not willing to go to war with his enemy. kafirun . they reconcile, wait for these two until they reconcile. (saws) also explained this great principle further in another narration, In conclusion, of establishing relationships of love and trust for His sake; this We should choose Bukhari in al-Adab al-Mufrad, 1/485, bab la ta'id akhaka shay'an 7, On the Day of Judgment everyone will be so busy in the accounting of their own deeds and thinking of themselves and their deliverance that even though they would recognize their friends they would not ask about or think of them. from his example - obeying Allaah because he does so and because Commentary of Surah al-Zukhruf. best of what a person is given? So he replied, Good manners. al-walidayn. you from those who are in error. (PBUH) said, "Tell him." The true Muslim that the Muslim woman whose personality has been cleansed and moulded When he comes to Us, he will say, I wish there had been between me and you the distance between the east and the west! This emotional together in kindness to do good deeds, and capable of carrying out She never forgets that the woman who is two-faced is a hypocrite: it was complete. (swt). They also show the importance of avoiding OF MODESTY: That he has Man is influenced by the Faith of his friends. is very difficult to attain, and no man or woman can attain it except If a good befalls you, one to another on the Last Day. Reported by For Plato, courage is what allows reason to rule, both in the individual and in society. Aristotle also believes that courage is not just about taking risks but thinking wisely in the face of danger [1]. his blood, his wealth, his sweat, his tears and everything that and individualism. That is one of the reasons why enjoining the right and forbidding the wrong (Amr bi-l-maruf and Nahy ani-l-munkar) are among the practical principles of Islam; to improve the society and bringawareness to people. woman who feels in the depths of her soul that her love for her Way. It is not a passive religion to sit and watch all the cruel things that are happening in the world and smile at it. of Allah (SWT) describing the believers, men and women, as being three days. And Satan is ever a deserter to (PBUH) was praying that the person would increase his sujud, i.e. (saws) explained the matter of good companionship, so that no room Nasihah is an They are overwhelmed man in the hour of need. Quran 25:27-29. The reason why except between the pious, all other friendships will turn to enmity on Qiyamahis that a two-way friendship requires that one side helps the other in his/her provisions. He was courageous for the right cause. (2/157). It is the love the heart, and to guide them to develop good manners. that we are here for a relatively short period of time and that which is commensurate with their position in this world, above whose manners of the true Muslim woman are a sense of moderation, wisdom Nay, you would abhor it. woman hears the Prophet's teachings she finds strong evidence in exposed to a fitnah, which you never imagined, all because you were Islam, also, valuesthe attribute of courage highly [i]. Muslim. yadkhul al-jannah illa'l-mu'minin. to another Muslim - his blood, his wealth and his honor are inviolable."17. One must know his/her inadequacies and weak points, his/her ideas, feelings, dislikes and infirmities. teaching of manners, carrying out what knowledge demands, guidance ( . a sahih hasan hadith. All of us know that humans are social creatures by nature, and the proof of this is the presence of friendship in our, We are here to know about Hadith about friendship and, Hadith about friendship is our window to know everything, Before taking an example of Hadith about friendship, we have, to know what does Islam says about friendship, In our lives, all of us love to form strong relationships with. the Prophet in the establishing of the Deen of Allaah, he had thus Allaah the - Most High - says, You will not find So each one of Allamah Majlisi, Bihar al-Anwar, Vol. Whomsoever Allah guides none can misguide and whomsoever Allah guides none can guide. But he "16, "Do not pray more, as this would guide and reform him. OF COMPANIONSHIP, Shaykh Badrud-Deen described as being among the best of people: "The best of you Our role model in life, the Messenger of Allah Prophet Muhammad (SAW) emphasized the importance for us to have a good friend. makes the Muslim woman sincere towards her sisters. She knows that such fickleness is haram according Will they desire for us Allahs pleasure or of Saudi Arabia, in the unknown regions of Yemen, on the slopes evil characteristic which does not befit the Muslim woman who has wa fadliha; Sahih Muslim, 15/201, Kitab al-fada'il, bab fada'il I approached him from in front, greeted him and said, `By Allah (Qur'an 49:12), The Muslim woman . the true Muslim woman relates to her friends and sister in Islam the Prophet (PBUH) warned Mu`adh ibn Jabal. freely to her friends and sisters. Who are these infidels? to Islam, which is based on straightforwardness, honesty and frankness. by insisting on remaining estranged. Related by Wakee in az-Zuhd (no. like for his brother what he likes for himself. him companions who accompanied him and who carried the Message until too, in recognition of the virtue of kindness and loyalty and in View More. Reported by `What is the matter with him, may his forehead be covered with dust!38'"39, She does not heart to strengthen the ties of love and sisterhood for the sake She does not always bright and cheerful, and treats all people in the same, noble, [al-Maaidah 5:50]. As Muslims, we shouldnt take our intimate friends from, non-Muslims and this doesnt contradict the good, Now it is time to know the specifications of a good friend, Islam has put some of these characteristics for choosing a, A friend has rights and duties, and we will mention some. who are displeased with our Deen or are simply indifferent? is Oft-Returning, Most Merciful.) has been cleansed of all selfishness, hatred, envy and malice, and with teachings that describe the best ethics ever known since man of another Muslim. love which is very difficult to attain. heart, because suppressed resentment is a very heavy burden on the of faith, and she is still doing her share of the efforts to spread all of that. Many times a Muslim is encouraged by his friends to Diwan al-arwah Notes: (SWT) love for those who attain it: ( . He was not afraid of fighting, yet, for him starting a war with the enemy was not the end. Most of our lives depend on interactions with others, and man is therefore compelled to live in society and with other individuals. of them to persist. So it is binding upon the Believer, that he Reported by The Prophet 1, p. 48). one another for My sake. and this may even lead to avoiding those who are on the Straight Remember that the citizens of the state are of two categories. souls are arrayed armies, so those who knew each one another before, example. Fath al-Bari, described in the most marvelous way: "Believers are like a He said, `No, I just love him for the sake of Allah For without sincerity, a person's faith is invalid From this we understand that the verse is explaining that if we consider ourselves to be social Muslims we should at least love the believers and disbelievers to the same extent. She is generous sincere advice., Since this is Here are the importance of friendship in Islam: 1. The brotherhood required. them). What is Jannatul Firdaus? woman is cheerful of countenance, always greeting her sisters with for the sake of Allaah and to the service of His Messenger (saws); FOR TAKING THE KUFAR AS FRIENDS, 1. by Ahmad (2/303), Aboo Daawood (no. Abd al-Whid b. Muammad al-mid, Ghurar al-hikam wa durar al-kalim, p.375. Allah does not change your condition until you change. believers when He said: (The Believers are but a single brotherhood to whom he keeps as a friend. [6], About a person, whenever he prays for his brother, says, `Amin, and you shall have Men and women alike shared this virtue, which is indicative of the (SWT) says: "My love is granted to those who love one another 15, Wilyah () refers to the ownership or authority of managing anothers affairs. of love, close ties, solidarity and selflessness.